“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate; our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that frightens us. We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous” Actually who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are meant to shine, as children do.”
I’ve loved this quote since I first read Marianne Williamson’s book “A Return To Love” back in 2008. I recall coming across these words in print and breaking into tears as the truth of the message hit me fully. You see, so many suffer by staying small.
Not me, not any longer.
This weekend I was fortunate enough to be a chosen speaker for the first annual Transform 2013 event. This two day affair was meant to draw people into creating change.
The room was filled with people of all levels of intelligence, wealth and well-being and the program ranged from a life coach expounding on the benefit of knowing your personal values, to breathwork and sound, philanthropy, the power of love, using archetypes to understand how people process transfiguration, meditation, parenting, numerology and of course there was me. I spoke about our belief systems and how they either serve you or they don’t.I also spoke of EFT (tapping).
As a trainer and speaker it is my goal to get people to choose change. I want them to choose to look into their belief systems, to opt for a better way of thinking. I do my professional best to be witty yet smart and I keep it super simple so that everyone can gain something.
Quite honestly, it’s nerve wracking to be on stage. I’d be lying to say otherwise. My tummy gets nervous jitters and at times, my knees literally shake, however, not at the Transform 2013 event. The room was so filled with genuine love that I had not an ounce of interior pain.
That was this weekend, when I played big and loud. But, I used to play small. I used to want to “blend in”. It was only through years of personal development and journeying into my soul (which remains ongoing) that I began to step out.
You know what I discovered? Playing big feels really good. Challenging myself to touch more people feels amazing. Smiling and meaning it, offering authentic compassion and a bit of “sparkle” as one friend calls it- helps me to feel like I am making the world a better place. I share my message and use Marianne Williamson’s words to goad me to playing bigger.
It should not have surprised me when I came off the stage following my 45 minute presentation and was approached by one of the other speakers. He walked right up to me, made eye contact, and reached for my hand. “Wow!” he said, “I believed every word out of your mouth. That was terrific!” Mind you, this man has been in the personal development field for over twenty years. I respect him. His words meant to much to me. He reached in his pocket to hand me what I thought would be his business card.
Ha! Never try to guess what message the Universe has in store for you. This new peer of mine handed me a laminated card with Ms. Williamson’s quote on it. He pointed to the line that says “Your playing small does not serve the world.” He looked me in the eye and said “You are not playing small.”
It was hard not shed tears. Without his knowing he validated me in a way that resonated deeply.
If you are still playing small then I encourage you to ask yourself why. Do you want to play big? Have you considered what someone else may be missing because you are playing small? Is change nipping at your heels?
YOUR ACTION STEP: Get unstuck. Begin the process of change by picking up meaningful books that help you journey into your soul. I highly recommend “A Return To Love” as a great place to learn love again. Figure out what is going on inside of you that you want to share with the world. We all have something to share. Every one of us is born with gifts that the world needs. It may be mothering. It could be creating massive social change. You may be the north west’s best perennial gardener. Whatever your gift to the world may be, dig deep and figure out what it is, and why you want to offer it. I hope you will begin today. Gentle reminder: don’t play small, play big.
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