I Will Own A Pink & Vintage White Car

This is my most re-pinned Pinterest picture.

Women and men everywhere are attracted to the beauty, the fun, the memories attached to this photo. Heck, it’s why I pinned it in the first place.

Daily I get notifications that so and so has repinned your pin. This picture by Barb Roehler is one of many brilliantly captured moments.   Please visit her Etsy shop for amazing printables. I have been fortunate enough to be her friend and confidante for a couple of years. Her professional growth in the form of photography is stunning and often takes my breath away.

pink and white vintage car

Today, let your breath be taken away, too. Visit her Etsy shop.

Excuse Me For Going Missing

Friends, I apologize.  I went and set up a new website and left this one behind.

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For those of you who check in here at Tam-i-am.com please do keep checking in. I’ll be getting back to this site in a new and exciting way. Hang in there. I believe in transformation and change and that’s what I’ll be doing:  evolving.

Thanks for your patience and I”ll see you soon.
Need me quickly? Hop over to:  www.choosebigchange.com for the beautiful new site and regular blog posts.

Personal Manifesto of the Best-oh

I am Tam & Tam I Am.

 

My personal plan is to leave this world a better place than I found it.

 

I will leave a legacy of Love and Inspiration by modeling a madly blissful lifestyle built on possibility & positivity, grace & charm, wit & wisdom, great health & great wealth. My legacy of leadership includes kindness, creativity, respect & enthusiasm for all forms of life.

 

I believe in the invisible web that unites every living thing & delivers magic to ordinary days. I believe above all intention is everything & everything is only energy that is ready, willing & able to change, as soon as we direct it to. I believe that, too, communication is key.

 

I know that with love all things are possible but that you must love yourself first. I know that different is good& change is inevitable and that monitoring your mindset makes miracles possible.I know that I receive what I believe and I know that castles can be built with words & we should therefore choose them carefully. I know being generous with compliments fuels two souls, yours & theirs.

 

My big idea is that I expect freedom, fun, communication & respect to rule each day. And yes, nice matters.

 

I expect you to try (at least once).

 

I trust in God, pink plaid & dark chocolate.

 

I understand that my smile is my best accessory, laughing until I cry(or snort),dancing in my car,& sunshine on my shoulder are all grand & wonderful things to be celebrated & cherished .

 

My wish for the world is:magic become normal, miracles be expected, & the ability to laugh uncontrollably be a measure of success. Peace will rule, different will be good, & we shall raise one another well. Personal freedom is not optional, it is expected (& allowed).

 

Joy, above everything, is a natural state of being & Happily Ever After is the order of the Universe.

The Game of Life and Personal Responsibility

The Game of Life & Personal Responsibility

Personal Responsibility is freedom.

You may take two giant steps.

Remember the playground game where one person stood at the front of the field and yelled directives to the reset of the kids saying things like “take six baby steps” or “you may now take three side steps and one leap backward”. You had to beg that person “May I?” He or she at the front of the line would yell back “NO, YOU MAY NOT!” It was an odd feeling to be directed by someone else’s whims.

That game was one in which the winner depended on long legs and a good ears. If you missed the assignment, you were doomed. If you were a slow grower with a short inseam, again- doomed. If you had angered the little guy named “Simon” you may as well leave the field early.

Things were really not in your control.

Unlike the game “Simon Says”, in the game of life you can be a winner regardless of who is in front of or beside you, the only person determining if you’re a winner, is YOU.

All you have to do is take personal responsibility to a new level.

Personal responsibility is when you are able to say “this life is a reflection of everything I have ever thought or given attention to”. In my group coaching is say “there is no ‘them‘”. There is no other person driving your bus. Every aspect of your life is but a hologram of your collective thoughts, past habits and patterns. Though there are players who took part in your creation, it was you who created your life.

“You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.”  by Jim Rohn

To take personal responsibility for your creation is the ultimate gold cup in personal development. As we stop blaming others and start noticing instead the images running through our mind’s eye, the voices that are chattering to us, we gain a sense of control and can begin to put together how the reality we are living truly is a mirror of the thought patterns you’ve been holding.

When you realize it’s only YOU that chose those baby steps and crab crawls it’s a tad dumfounding. It’s a big wake up call to know that there is no one “Simon” standing at the front of your life saying “take three baby steps backward and then go sideways for a half mile”. You did it because the patterns in your brain and in your subconscious mind find comfort in those missteps. It’s what you have always known.

Please, don’t feel bad about where you’re at. It’s no mistake that you’re waking up right now. Change is in the air in a big way. It’s planetary. Just decide today that what you’ve been doing hasn’t worked so far and you’re going to try something new.


Take the time now to reflect on whether or not you are blaming others for your conditions. Who do you currently blame?

For the record: It isn’t the government’s fault, nor the economy. Don’t look toward your parents or siblings, your boss or your banker. Every condition you are part of is only your mind’s creation. Your body hasn’t failed you, and your spouse isn’t to blame either.

Look deeply at the habits and patterns that have formed your life and then declare control.

It’s time now to to be your own Simon Says. Be the leader. Be the boss of yourself. If you’re ready to stop blaming and start changing, congratulations. The game of life is about to be very different for you.

You may now take ten giant steps forward.

ACTION STEP: Once you have claimed personal responsibility and honestly committed to no longer pointing the finger at others, you may find yourself needing support. It is a helpful for you to post a few reminders to yourself so that you can get in the habit of only looking inward when you dislike something about your life. Sticky notes posted on the walls and mirrors that say “I am responsible for where I’m at” or “I created this and I can change it” or “I am the Simon Says of my own life” will awaken you to redirecting your thoughts.

Take personal responsibility personally. More action steps for change, coming soon.

Law of Attraction and Limitations

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The Law of Attraction Gets Basic

Author Napoleon Hill of “Think And Grow Rich”  taught the laws of success and without even trying, he covered the Law of Attraction, too. In trying to spread the message of the law of attraction it’s sometimes difficult to express exactly how it works. It isn’t enough to say “like attracts like” or “thoughts become things”, though I believe those statements to be true- there is so much more to it than that. I thought it would be fun to bring together my creative talent with the concepts involved in monitoring mindset and managing miracles.

Limitations and The Law of Attraction

“The only limitations there are, are the ones you create in your mind.” This quote is a take off of one from Napoleon Hill. The quote refers to and acknowledges the power our mind’s have to fabricate barriers to our desired results.

Our brains work from the past. It’s been imprinted with neural patterns based on old habits and modeled behaviors that now dictate the way which we will think and act. We can create conflict, resistance, anxiety, problems that are not real in order that we stay comfortable in our lives.

You see, change is painful and our brain/subconscious mind know that and will do anything to stop us from experiencing it, hence, distractions, imaginary road blocks and walls that cannot be climbed. Oh, the tragedy!

Law of Attraction, Limitations and Goal Setting

All of our lives have been leading up to this moment. You awaken one day to a goal that, if achieved, will be life-changing. You are fired up. You are filled with excitement to begin taking steps toward making the dream a reality.

Then, you go for a walk. Turn on the television. You play Farmville or go to McDonald’s. (Read: you don’t take the inspired action required).

Before you know it, there it is. FEAR. Its the litany of complaints registered by the dynamic duo of your brain/mind. It is the myriad reasons why you cannot/should not/would not be, do or have your big dream.

By not taking immediate steps toward the desired end result you allowed your brain/subconscious mind to register questions and possible complaints. It created imaginary limitations because you allowed it time to search for reasons to stay the same. Your brain/subconscious mind love “status quo” and you just gave them fuel for the fire by not taking action.

Override the Law of Attraction

Limitations are a creation of your mind. The more you look at them and for them, the more of them you’ll find. Begin change by acknowledging that they are only a figment of your overactive imagination. Tell them “I see you there, Negative Nancy, but I’m just not going there with you today.” Now use the ABC’s of LOA to tackle the situation:

  • ATTENTION. Regularly see what it is you want. Your brain connects easily with images. Keep photos of your desired result close by so that you can train your brain what to look for. If possible, insert a picture of yourself with or next to the end goal.
  • BELIEFS.Use EFT to acknowledge and then release and neutralize the negative thoughts and feelings that build up as you go through this. Your mind will not stop reacting and feeding you words that derail you unless you tell it to. Using EFT, or tapping, neutralizes the pain of old memories, negative thought patterns and puts your mind and body at ease.
  • CONSTANT ACTION. Plan your work and work your plan: Having a dream is terrific, but not having a solid list of action steps to take to help achieve it would be foolish. Brainstorm a list of steps that you’ll need to take. When you’re tuckered out with listing ideas, put them into a prioritized order and do something daily that makes sense. You’ll eventually build some momentum and look forward to checking the steps of your list.

Stay tuned for more information about  basic neuroscience as it relates to your success and the law of attraction.

Tell me in the comments below what negative pattern keeps popping up and derailing your success?

Spreecast witih Julie McAllister Topic of Self Love

Tam TV talk with Julie McAllister About Self-Love

My first Tam TV episode via Spreecast included special guest speaker/intuitive coach/energy healer  Julie McAllister. Her message is one of self-love and the potential we all have as human beings once we dig deep and do the work to truly love ourselves.

What a terrific first episode we had. Julie expressed the importance of self-love and how her coaching can bring clients to a new level. She did mini-readings for two women who were in the audience and her mystery question revealed something involving her childhood….(drumroll)

My own experience with learning self-love was a long road. I didn’t even know how self-loathing I truly was until over the last two years when I realized I had never told myself I loved me. Have you tried looking in the mirror, right in your own eyes, and then saying “I love you” and actually meaning it? If you are honest with yourself you’ll admit that it isn’t easy.

Self-Love Requires Honesty, Ask Julie McAllister

In the group coaching work that I do I always ask “Do you like yourself?” Almost invariably everyone nods their heads ‘yes”. I then ask “Do you love yourself?” and again, with a full on head bob they answer “Oh yes, I really love myself.” Now think about this- you’re in coaching because life is too hard and you aren’t making headway. Do you honestly love yourself at a soul level? This, I believe, is what Julie McAllister was talking about.

When you know love, when you honestly have that deep bliss inside of yourself life gets very easy. It’s the flow that so many are missing. It’s when everything lines up for you without any effort. Loving yourself means the voices in your head serve your success rather than your failure.

It’s big work. I support Julie’s work and her message and hope you will find her as inspiring as I do. A magical and powerful woman, her services will take you into blissfully mad self-love.

The Spreecast below is about 45 minutes in length. Enjoy our interaction and take a chance on self-love.

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Thank you for playing along, self-love coach Julie McAllister.  Julie has tagged two other potential guests. I’ll be contacting them to see if they can join me for episode 2 of Tam TV- a Tag Team Growth Show.

Tam Met A Man With A Message

Tam Met A Man With A Message

It’s true, the VIP isn’t the only man with a message for this teacher. The gentleman I bumped into and speak of in this video had something to say. Our meeting was more than mere chance, synchronicity played it’s part.

The Man With A Message Left An Impression

“Do all things with love, or just don’t do them.”

It’s a shame that I didn’t take the time to look at his card before we parted ways. I’d have liked to thank him for his generosity in spreading what he knows to be his truth. The man, by the way, is eighty years young. He was teasing his young bride (his eighty year old wife of fifty plus years) and egging me on with jokes and witticisms. He had much more life in him than many people one third of his age. The best part was that he was living his message of doing things with love.

I sensed that not only does he believe in that mantra, he takes action toward living it.He clearly has a sense of what the French call joie de vivre or “joy of living”.

I remain impressed by the man with a message.

 

Video Question

This quick video of me, Tam I Am Veilleux, asks for you to just consider that maybe you are okay right where you are at.

Our belief systems run the show. If you are constantly struggling to get somewhere in life, be bigger, run smoother and you feel you have not yet arrived, you are creating resistance. Your belief system is not set to think that where your at is okay for now. Sometimes you just need to be okay. If you can believe that maybe “here and now” and “as is” serves a purpose, doesn’t that just take the pressure off? I hope so.

Create change by resting into neutral. Let go and let yourself grow through the natural process of rejuvenation.

Watch the video. Give it some thought and post your comment below.

Tapping Into Change and Getting Unstuck

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Create change! Learn the “ABC’s of Getting Unstuck”. Join me, Tam I Am Veilleux, on a one hour Spreecast. It’s *FREE*for you! I’ll be live at 9 pm EST. Join my spreecast here:  Tam I Am’s Spreecast Channel.

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Transform 2013 and Marianne Williamson

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 “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate; our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that frightens us. We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous” Actually who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are meant to shine, as children do.”

 

I’ve loved this quote since I first read Marianne Williamson’s book “A Return To Love” back in 2008. I recall coming across these words in print and breaking into tears as the truth of the message hit me fully. You see, so many suffer by staying small.

 

Not me, not any longer. dove

 

This weekend I was fortunate enough to be a chosen speaker for the first annual Transform 2013 event. This two day affair was meant to draw people into creating change.

The room was filled with people of all levels of intelligence, wealth and well-being and the program ranged from a life coach expounding on the benefit of knowing your personal values, to breathwork and sound, philanthropy, the power of love, using archetypes to understand how people process transfiguration, meditation, parenting, numerology and of course there was me. I spoke about our belief systems and how they either serve you or they don’t.I also spoke of EFT (tapping).

 

As a trainer and speaker it is my goal to get people to choose change. I want them to choose to look into their belief systems, to opt for a better way of thinking. I do my professional best to be witty yet smart and I keep it super simple so that everyone can gain something.

 

Quite honestly, it’s nerve wracking to be on stage. I’d be lying to say otherwise. My tummy gets nervous jitters and at times, my knees literally shake, however, not at the Transform 2013 event. The room was so filled with genuine love that I had not an ounce of interior pain.

 

That was this weekend, when I played big and loud. But, I used to play small. I used to want to “blend in”. It was only through years of personal development and journeying into my soul (which remains ongoing) that I began to step out.

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You know what I discovered? Playing big feels really good. Challenging myself to touch more people feels amazing. Smiling and meaning it, offering authentic compassion and a bit of “sparkle” as one friend calls it- helps me to feel like I am making the world a better place. I share my message and use Marianne Williamson’s words to goad me to playing bigger.

 

It should not have surprised me when I came off the stage following my 45 minute presentation and was approached by one of the other speakers. He walked right up to me, made eye contact, and reached for my hand. “Wow!” he said, “I believed every word out of your mouth. That was terrific!” Mind you, this man has been in the personal development field for over twenty years. I respect him. His words meant to much to me. He reached in his pocket to hand me what I thought would be his business card.

 

Ha! Never try to guess what message the Universe has in store for you. This new peer of mine handed me a laminated card with Ms. Williamson’s quote on it. He pointed to the line that says “Your playing small does not serve the world.” He looked me in the eye and said “You are not playing small.”

 

It was hard not shed tears. Without his knowing he validated me in a way that resonated deeply.

 

If you are still playing small then I encourage you to ask yourself why. Do you want to play big? Have you considered what someone else may be missing because you are playing small? Is change nipping at your heels?

 

YOUR ACTION STEP: Get unstuck. Begin the process of change by picking up meaningful books that help you journey into your soul. I highly recommend “A Return To Love” as a great place to learn love again. Figure out what is going on inside of you that you want to share with the world. We all have something to share. Every one of us is born with gifts that the world needs. It may be mothering. It could be creating massive social change. You may be the north west’s best perennial gardener. Whatever your gift to the world may be, dig deep and figure out what it is, and why you want to offer it. I hope you will begin today. Gentle reminder: don’t play small, play big.

 

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